Embarrassed About Going to the Dentist? Here’s What You Can Do

Many people don’t look forward to going to the dentist. It may be uncomfortable, especially if you have dental issues that need treatment. Feeling self-conscious or embarrassed about your teeth can make it tempting to avoid the dentist altogether. But this can lead to worsening dental problems and more complex treatments down the line.

If you are embarrassed about going to the dentist, here are some things you can do so that you can get the care you need.

What to do if you’re too embarrassed to go to the dentist

Many people feel nervous or embarrassed about going to the dentist. But advocating for yourself with the following tips can help you feel more comfortable as you care for your oral health.

1. Be honest with your dentist

The best approach is to be up front with your dentist about your embarrassment and concerns. Ask questions. A good dentist will be understanding and work to make you feel comfortable without judgment.

2. Find the right dentist

If you don’t feel at ease with your dentist, consider finding a new one. Look for dentists who advertise a judgment-free philosophy or who specialize in treating people with anxiety. If cost is a concern, you can also look for a dentist or clinic that fits your budget.

3. Visit the dental office ahead of time

You can request to visit the office for a consultation before your treatment. This is an opportunity to get acquainted with the facility and ask questions about what to expect at your appointment.

4. Start with a cleaning

If it’s been a long time since your last dental visit, start small by scheduling a cleaning. This can help you become more comfortable with the dentist and office before addressing larger issues.

5. Discuss your goals

Talk to your dentist about your goals, whether it’s improving your smile, addressing pain or discomfort, or simply getting your oral health on track. An open and honest discussion will help your dentist create a personalized treatment plan that aligns with your needs.

6. Inquire about sedation options

If you have a lot of dental anxiety, or a dental phobia, ask your dentist about sedation options that can help you relax during treatments. When dentists use conscious sedation, you can still breathe normally and respond to speech and touch. But you won’t feel localized pain.

Is it common to feel embarrassed about going to the dentist?

If you’re nervous or embarrassed about going to the dentist, you’re not alone. Dental anxiety, fear, and embarrassment are common. Research suggests that dental anxiety affects 36% of the population and 12% of adults have extreme dental fear.

But postponing dental care often leads to more serious (and expensive) problems. Common reasons people say they worry about going to the dentist include:

• Fear of judgment

• Fear of pain

• Fears of feeling powerless

• Worries about gagging

• Worries about fainting

• Worries about having a panic attack

Do dentists judge their patients?

Reputable dentists understand that dental issues can stem from many factors, such as:

• Genetics

• Past trauma

• Lack of education

• Difficulty accessing care

A good dentist will be nonjudgmental and focus on helping you improve your oral health. Many dentists report that they become dentists because they truly want to help people. Your dentist should want to support you in improving your oral health and overall health and not judge you for any perceived shortcomings.

How to prepare for my dental appointment

Use the following tips to guide your conversation with your dental team as you prepare for your first appointment. A caring dentist will do whatever they can to alleviate your anxiety or dental embarrassment.

• Be honest with the dental team about your concerns. They will be more equipped to help you if they know how you’re feeling.

• Avoid caffeine before your appointment since it can make you more jittery.

• Bring a friend or a family member for moral support.

• Ask about using a hand signal to communicate that you need a break.

• Request to listen to your favorite music on your headphones to drown out noises.

• Breathe deeply, and try relaxation techniques.

• Ask if your dentist can talk to you about what they are going to do before the appointment begins. For example, ask them to explain the tools that they will use.

• Local dental anesthetics work very well and are safe in most cases. If you experience pain even with a local anesthetic, tell your dentist. Many people feel self-conscious or embarrassed about their pain tolerance. But by communicating this to your dentist, they can take steps to increase your comfort throughout the procedure.

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Written by:

Liz Talago, MEd

Liz Talago, MEd, is a mental health content writer and strategist whose work is infused with clinical expertise, behavioral science, and empathic storytelling. After spending years on the front lines of mental health care, Liz now partners with mission-driven organizations across the globe to create digital tools and experiences that enhance well-being.

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Sarah Gupta, MD

Sarah Gupta, MD, is a licensed physician with a special interest in mental health, sex and gender, eating disorders, and the human microbiome. She is currently board certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology.

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