12 Signs of Depression in Men: Anger, Isolation, and Other Unexpected Symptoms

More than 6 million men live silently with depression every year. It’s likely there are many reasons for this, including cultural stigma. But the truth is: It can often be hard to recognize depression symptoms in men. 

This is because, much of the time, depression doesn’t look the same in men as it does in women. Men can definitely have “classic” symptoms of depression like sadness and hopelessness. But they can have other, lesser-known symptoms, too — like anger, irritability, and changes in behavior. 

Let’s take a closer look at 12 common signs and symptoms of depression in men. We’ll also take you through the differences in depression in men and women, as well as next steps for getting help. 

1. Quick frustration, irritability, or inappropriate anger

Though irritability is a common symptom of depression, it may be especially likely in men. Men with depression might also seem to have a “short temper” or get angry or frustrated easily. 

2. Feelings of hopelessness or emptiness

Depression in men can lead to a hopeless, pessimistic outlook toward life — with or without a specific reason. This can sometimes show up as a loss of motivation, or a persistent negative view of the future. It can also make men feel empty, like their life lacks meaning. 

3. Too little or too much sleep

Depression in men can cause sleep disturbances. This can include problems falling asleep or staying asleep, or waking up a lot during the night. And even if they sleep through the night, men with depression might still not feel refreshed in the morning. 

4. Low energy and poor concentration

Overwhelming fatigue is common in men with depression. This can make it hard to concentrate, and decrease a man’s daily stamina — both of which can take a toll on their work and personal life. 

5. Lack of interest

Men with depression can lose interest in things they normally enjoy, like hobbies or spending time with loved ones. They might also seem more withdrawn at work, school, and home.

6. Increased risky behaviors

Men with depression may engage in high-risk behaviors as a way to numb emotions that are too painful to confront, or feelings that are hard to talk about. This might include experimenting with alcohol, drugs, or gambling. Some men might also drive more recklessly, or engage in unsafe sex.  

7. Escapist behavior

Some men with depression throw themselves into work, exercise, or other projects as a distraction. Though this can be healthy in some cases, a man might use it as a way to block out how they’re really feeling. 

8. Aggressive or violent behavior

Society puts pressure on men to stay in control of their surroundings and emotions. But for many men with depression, it can be a struggle to hold things together. This stress can come out as aggressive behavior, or even violence. 

9. Physical symptoms

Some men with depression may find it easier to talk about their physical complaints than their feelings. This might include focusing on physical symptoms that are common in depression, like headaches, body pain, and digestive problems.

10. Sexual problems

Men with depression often have sexual problems. This can include a lower sex drive, or difficulty getting aroused or “turned on.” A man might also have trouble with orgasms or erections. 

11. Change in weight

When men are depressed, they might eat more or less than they usually do. This can lead to changes in weight. 

12. Suicidal thoughts

Depression in men can cause suicidal thoughts. It’s important to take suicidal thoughts seriously, and reach out for help. This is especially important for men with depression, who are four times as likely as women to die by suicide. 

If you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, call or text the national Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988. Help is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. 

What is the difference between depression in men and depression in women?

There are notable differences in depression between men and women. For example, in women, depression is typically marked by sadness and hopelessness. But in men with depression, agitation, anger, or aggression often show up, too. 

These differences can make it difficult to spot symptoms of depression in men. They can also make it harder for men to recognize their own depression, and get treatment. And it may even make it harder for healthcare professionals to diagnose depression in some men.

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Risk factors for depression in men

Depression in men isn’t caused by any one single factor. It’s linked to many things. In general, a man might be more at risk for depression if he:

• Has had depression before

• Has a close family member with depression

• Has other mental or physical health conditions

• Takes certain medications that can cause depression as a side effect

• Has had stressful or traumatic experiences in his life

How is depression in men diagnosed?

If you’re concerned about depression, talk with a healthcare professional. They can talk with you about your symptoms and your experiences. In some cases, they might also recommend a physical exam or lab tests to better understand your condition. 

Based on their findings, a healthcare professional can diagnose you with depression if appropriate. They can also help determine whether there could be another mental or physical health problem at the root of your concerns. 

Treatment for men with depression

Treatment options for depression in men are the same as those for women. The right treatment for you depends on your symptoms, and your personal preferences. But in general, the most common treatments are therapy and medication. 

For some men, depression may be resistant to common treatments (called “treatment-resistant depression”).  This can happen in up to 30% of people with depression. In these cases, your doctor or psychiatrist may suggest additional types of treatment, such as brain stimulation therapies.  

Resources for men with depression

If you or a loved one are experiencing depression, you don’t have to brave it alone. Here are some resources for men that can help:

• Man Therapy: This mental health campaign combines humor with practical tools to help reduce suicide and depression in men. Man Therapy includes a mental health assessment, can connect you with resources, and give you practical tips for how to handle intense emotions. 

• National Alliance on Mental Illness: The National Alliance on Mental Illness is dedicated to promoting awareness and providing support for mental health. You can reach them at 1-800-950-NAMI (1-800-950-6264) or text “NAMI” to 62640 for free crisis support. 

• 998 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: The national Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by calling or texting 988.

• Face It Foundation: This is a network of support groups, peer support, and other services for men recovering from depression. 

• HeadsUpGuys: This association provides men with strategies and information to help manage or prevent depression. It’s also a resource to help find a therapist.

• Movember Foundation: This charity focuses on issues that affect men’s physical and mental health.

• Brother, You Are On My Mind: This joint effort between Omega Phi Psi Fraternity and the National Institute on Minority Health and Health Disparities, provides a toolkit to address depression and stress in Black men.

• Men’s Group: This online men’s discussion forum is a safe place for men to talk about life challenges, such as divorce, depression, and parenthood.

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Written by:

Bernadette Anderson, MD, MPH

A native of Saginaw, Michigan, Dr. Bernadette earned an undergraduate degree in psychology from the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. She completed a master's degree in public health at the University of California, Berkeley, and a doctorate of medicine from the Medical College of Ohio.

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Sophie Vergnaud, MD

Sophie Vergnaud, MD, is the Senior Medical Director for GoodRx Health. A pulmonologist and hospitalist, she practiced and taught clinical medicine at hospitals in London for a decade before entering a career in health education and technology.

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Sarah Gupta, MD

Sarah Gupta, MD, is a licensed physician with a special interest in mental health, sex and gender, eating disorders, and the human microbiome. She is currently board certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology.

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